Podcast 608: The Overwhelmed Brain with Paul Colaianni

Being true to yourself can be challenging.  It takes belief in oneself, and a commitment to working on continually improving our perspective and eliminated the negative self talk.

In his new book “The Overwhelmed Brain” author Paul Colaianni guides the reader through a series of stories and exercises that are designed to to stop our self-sabotaging behaviors and replace them with self compassion.  Paul states that “honoring others over yourself is like dishonoring yourself”.   Compassion starts on the inside, and when you have enough of it for yourself, only then can you spread it out into the world for others.

“The Overwhelmed Brain” is about ways to look at yourself with the benefit of improving your relationships with others.   Paul encourages us to not always think that the other person needs changing, usually it is our attitude and belief that need to be changed.  Once we alter our beliefs, we can change our feeling and emotions about the other person.  This is a formula for successful relationships.  Always look at what you can change to improve your relationship with another person that is difficult to get along with.

I hope your enjoy my interview with author Paul Colaianni as we explore being true to yourself, building positive relationships while overcoming stress and anxiety.  If you want to learn more about Paul you can visit his website by clicking here or his Facebook page by clicking here.

 

Podcast 567: A Love Story with Lance Secretan

I had an opportunity to connect again with Lance Secretan, someone I consider a good friend and confidant.  His new book entitled ” A Love Story” is a personal memoir about his wonderful love relationship with his wife Tricia who passed away in 2014 from cancer.  Lance laces the book with wonderful poetry and stories about this amazing love affair, which he wishes everyone could have with that special someone in their life.  Tricia had a full and wonderful life with Lance, and she certainly made him whole and complete in so many ways.

I hope you enjoy this intensely personal story and interview with my good friend and author Lance Secretan and he recites beautiful poetry and tells us about a journey with his wife that will ever be imbedded in his memories.  If you want more information about the book ” A Love Story” please click here to be directed to Lance’s blog.  Or you can click here to learn more about Lance and his organization “The Secretan Center.”

 

Podcast 449: Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love with Naomi Berger

Let’s face it, relationships can be challenging. They are a compromise and a collaboration—especially relationships with our significant others. The work we invest into our relationships can pay off in spades relative to our own happiness and the happiness of our partners.

In Naomi Bergers new book entitled “Marriage Meeting for Lasting Love” Naomi provide the reader with very sound advice with regarding a process she refers to as the “marriage meetings”. This is simply a defined meeting time weekly set weekly where we meet with our significant other using a set of guidelines to have a 30-45 minute dialogue. She suggests following an agenda 1) Expressing Appreciation 2) Coordinating Chores 3) Planning for Good Times 4) Addressing Problems and Challenges.

Naomi has been using this process in our counseling practice for years, and the results from her clientele has been amazing. If you want to add spice and more harmony to your relationship, then I would suggest you reading Naomi’s book “Marriage Meetings for Lasting Love” I am sure you will be provided with many tips for improving your love life.

If you want to learn more about Naomi, please click here to be taken to her website.

Podcast 401: When the Past Is Present with David Richo

Recently I was speaking with a good friend who was going through some tough emotional times and he recommended that I read a book entitled “When the Past Is Present”  I contacted David Richo the author and he kindly granted me an interview.

In my interview with David we discuss the topic of transference which I have to admit I was not aware of prior to our interview and reading his book.  I know that many of my listeners will relate to this issue, for our relationships with our parents are frequently played out in our own relationships subconsciously.

If a parent withheld love we can find that we emulate this behavior in our relationships.  I know for me that being demonstrative and loving has always been emotionally challenging and something that I needed to bring to the greater awareness too and focus on.  In my interview with David we discuss not only the topic of transference  but how David recommends transmitting this emotional challenge.

I highly recommend David book “When the Past Is Present” if you are unaware of how you treat the people you love, and want to understand the steps you can take to eliminate this subconscious behavior.

Please take time to listen to our interview and watch the video interview  below.  You can also visit David’s website by clicking here.