While engaged in my masters degree program in Spiritual Psychology at University of Santa Monica , we were asked to identify our personal quality. I thought for a while, and then wrote down on a piece of paper the words “compassionate communications.” What I meant by this was that I wanted to emanate this quality to others, that I was engaged at a heart-centered level of dialogue when communicating with all people.
This was a big aspiration to have, mostly because it required that I become aware of both my verbal language and my body language that I was using with other people. Misunderstanding of another person usually results from our inability to clarify communications through asking clarifying questions, and also simply by waiting for our turn to speak without hearing the other person. Most of the time we are just waiting for our turn to speak without really listening deeply to what the other person is attempting to communicate. I know this, because I too am a culprit of not listening fully and with all my heart, but when I do deeply connect to this quality of compassionate communications, the encounter between myself and the sender is at a much deeper level. You know the times you have been in dialogue with a very interesting person and then, before you know it, hours have passed by? It is a beautiful thing for your souls to have touched!!!
In this podcast with my friend Jon Forrest, I believe that you will learn a great deal about the cornerstones of human interaction. Jon discusses thoroughly the four cornerstones, and his approach by incorporating the martial art of Aikido. His approach is fascinating and will greatly help you to transform your communications skills. If after listening to the podcast you have more interest in Jon’s work, I would recommend his book entitled “Stay Calm.” You can also contact him through his web site at www.icaninternational.com. Keep listening deeply and with an open heart!
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